What keeps you from thriving at work you want and living the life you love? When I start a career coaching conversation, I ask, “How would you rate your overall satisfaction with your work and career on a scale of one to 10?”
After asking that opening question to over 2500 people, I’ve noticed consistent themes between the rating and what people are experiencing. When people rate their satisfaction at 5/10 or less, they are at a crisis point.
Typically they report a level of stress and dissatisfaction they aren’t able to compartmentalize and leave at work at the end of the day. Work is following them home, waking them up at 4:00 AM and changing the way they feel about themselves. The rating of 5/10 or less means a person is experiencing a profound mismatch in style, values or fit with their work, organization, team or boss. They are demoralized and exhausted. Every day at work is a struggle.
This kind of career situation requires immediate attention and usually a job change. As I say to my clients “Don’t waste time rearranging the furniture when the house is on fire.”
A job change may be the short-term response to the crisis, however what about the longer term?
What are some other ways to describe the essence of the struggle, and make an even finer diagnosis? What is at the heart of what we need to change to thrive, and make bolder choices? What keeps us stuck in “OK”? How do we make sure we are solving the right problem? What do we need to strengthen to claim a bigger dream?
Kathy Caprino is an author, writer and coach who has a lot to say about women and power. Kathy Caprino’s research has uncovered that most professional challenges are related in some core way to a lack of internal or external power. Kathy refers to these challenges as “power gaps” and describes them in her article, The 7-power-gaps that block your happiness and success.
Kathy Caprino says these gaps in our power take from us what we need most to thrive: vitality, self-confidence, vision, commitment, connection, and influence. If we don’t address the gap, it becomes wider and creates more harm to our self-confidence and ability to act.
These power gaps hit women hard, and women process these challenges differently from men. But men suffer from them as well.
Today, I’ll identify the seven gaps; then I ’ll go into depth about each one over the next few weeks. I am a certified Amazing Career Coach, trained and mentored by Kathy Caprino in her five phase proprietary, five-phase career growth process for women.
In upcoming blogs, I’ll share my take on each of the 7 Power Gaps and what I’ve learned through what professional women have shared with me over thousands of coaching conversations. I’ll also share ways to close these power gaps and get on with thriving at work you want and living a life you love.